J'accuse ... Peppa Pig

Yes, that’s right. Peppa Pesky Pig.

For the first four years of my children’s lives, I was the perfect mother. In one respect, anyway. My children did not watch television. No: who needed it? We had books, board games, a huge craft box, more books, wooden bricks, more books and ... yes, more books. 

When other parents talked about CBeebies at toddler group, I felt marvellously smug. What was CBeebies? Ohhhh, I see. It’s a television channel. Ah, we had only just got Channel 5, never mind a new-fangled black box thing with extra channels.


Yes, I was such a fabulous mother that I had no need of an electronic babysitter (and, of course, I had the two most articulate children in the universe to prove it). The fact that the only thing I watched myself was Location, Location, Location might possibly have helped, but I wasn’t going to mention that to anyone, lest my smug credentials be dented.

But then along came Peppa Pig.

I’m not quite sure how it happened, but I found myself with the television on one afternoon. By accident, obviously. On the screen was a cartoon pig about to jump off a diving board to retrieve a lost dinosaur (or something). Well, Cash in the Attic wouldn’t have gripped me - but Daddy Pig did. And when they all fell over on their backs, laughing, I was hooked. 

So I set the video recorder (yes, video recorder) to record at the same time the following day, and I played it to the children. And we did the same the next day, and the day after that. And so Peppa Pig and her family came to share our lives. Just five minutes of pigginess a day. Where was the harm in that?

And then came the day that I wasn’t organised enough to set the video to record, so I taped a whole bundle of Stuff that turned out to be m-m-m-m-me-me-me-me-more-Milk-shake. And yes, you guessed it: the children were mesmerised.

After that, there was no turning back. Come Outside, Thomas the Tank Engine, Fifi and the Flowertots, Numberjacks ... all of them were in our playroom. 

Well, the Numberjacks were educational. And Fifi was full of circle-time type messages about being kind and helpful to wasps. And Auntie Mabel taught the children what to do if a chip pan caught fire. And Thomas the Tank Engine ... um, Ringo Starr narrated it well.

But it is of course only a very short hop from Auntie Mabel showing us round a bread factory (bread, bread, bread, made of wheat or rye...) to Horrible Histories and Tracy Beaker. And from there, you are heading straight to hell in a handcart driven by Richard Hammond, Jeremy Clarkson and James May. Thanks to that trio, my nine-year-old son’s ultimate ambition is to blow up a caravan.

While it’s tempting to put that frightful trio (and the entire Brainiac crew, while we’re at it) in a caravan and blow it up myself, I have to remember that it’s not their fault that my children are now would-be television addicts. Nor it is my fault for having had a moment of weakness four years ago. No: it is all the fault of one cute little piggy and her diving champion dad. Peppa Pig: J’accuse!

Stir-up Sunday

Yes, this is 'Stir-up Sunday', the day on which we are traditionally supposed to stir up our Christmas puddings. I know this thanks to York Minster, not because John Lewis has suddenly decided that it's cool to make Christmas puddings (I say this because I am no longer speaking to JL on account of crimes against advertising).

Well, there has been plenty of stirring in our house today. However, it hasn't involved Christmas puddings. It has involved the children kicking one another. Grr.

Five crimes against children that I was never going to commit

Ah, principles. It's so easy to have them. And even easier to ditch them once children come along. Here are the top five things I was never, ever going to do when my children were born.

1. Use environment-busting disposable nappies. I have the bill for the reusuable ones to prove it. What nobody told me was that they make your baby look like a pear, and that he will be the only newborn needing clothes for age 3-4 to accommodate the nappy bulk. They do make very good - if somewhat pricey - dusters, though.

2. Go to Macdonalds. We all know that the route to hell is paved with chicken nuggets and thick shakes. Hence my dear little organically-grown infants were never going to darken its doors. Until, stuck on a long motorway journey with two tired and hungry children, it suddenly seemed like the best invention since the epidural. It still does, at times.

3. Use a dummy. They stop your child from learning to talk (and, like all middle class parents, I was keen for mine to be talking in full sentences at six weeks. Until, that is, they learnt to talk and never stopped again). They also give them sticky-outy teeth and are generally used only by people who put Coke in baby bottles. But, confronted by a newborn who was determined to suck fruitlessly at me for at least 25 hours a day, I found salvation in a multi-pack.

4. Use reins. Having a toddler on reins is like having a dog on a lead, said Mrs Smugaroo (i.e. me). What about his independence and freedom?

Then I found myself living on a main road with a bolter. I was such a keen user of reins that I did at one point wonder whether my son would be going off to university wearing them. Yet another principle down the pan.

5. Use the TV as a babysitter. Actually, I did quite well with this one until I was defeated by Peppa Pig. One watch and I was hooked. Which meant that I had to let the children watch too. And then it's just a short leap from Milkshake to Brainiac. Sob.

Ever the optimist, though, there are still many things that I am definitely, absolutely, decidedly never going to let my children do. Under any circumstances. Ever.

1. Open a Facebook account.

2. Have any kind of screen in their bedrooms.

3. Shop at Jack Wills (because they might emerge anorexic and with flicky hair extensions).

4. Get in a car with anyone who hasn't been driving for over, ooh, 40 years.

5. Wear crop tops. Boys included.

I am already polishing my maternal halo in anticipation ...

New Year's Resolution, 11 months too late...

Yes, at this late stage of the year, I am resolving to be a better blogger. I am hanging my cyber head in shame as I see that my children were four and six when I last embarrassed them on here. They are now older, and thus even more embarrassable...

Bibbety bobbety boo

On Sandsend Beach today, one of those unexpected, rare moments that make you feel that parenthood is all worthwhile. As I painstakingly picked the grains of sand from between my daughter's toes, she declared in wonder: “Mummy, you are just like a fairy godmother.”

Holes in the ground, holes in the ground...

Well, I never imagined that I’d get excited by a Portaloo – but excited is precisely what I was when I went to Nostell Priory today (or Nostril Priory, as my four-year-old daughter thought it was called). Oh yes: not only was there a seat on the loo, but there was also a hand basin with soap and – oh, miracle of miracles – water.

I have never been a great fan of loos in fields, but our recent holiday in France has finally taught me to count my toiletary blessings. Persuaded by my husband and his even more persuasive French-dwelling friend to venture out of Yorkshire and into the French Pyrenees for a week, I had been full of reservations (would we all die in an air crash? Even worse: would the children die in an air-crash that we survived? Would we have to eat frogs’ legs and wear onions round our necks?) Some of my anxieties had been quelled by the large box of Yorkshire Tea and jar of Marmite which almost cost me a fortune in excess baggage – but nothing had prepared me for the really big problem.

I was lulled into a false sense of security at Perpignan airport, where the loos were really quite civilised (i.e. similar to ones at home), give or take a few thousand resident flies. This generally positive effect continued at our friends’ house, where the main oddity was a malfunctioning pull-flush. And so I was not in the slightest bit concerned when my daughter declared “I need a poo” as we made our way through a cathedral cloister: I had already noticed the handy “WC” at the entrance to the garden. But what a sight met our eyes: right behind the door was a noxious porcelain tray-thing with a hole in the middle. Daughter looked as horrified as I felt. “I don’t really need a poo,” she declared, as we tumbled out backwards.

“It’s a hole in the ground!” I told my husband once I’d regained my breath (which I had been holding, lest the stink knock me unconscious). “Ah yes,” he said. “Didn’t I tell you about French toilets?”

“I still don’t need a poo,” said Daughter, hopping around and clutching herself madly. “I don’t need a wee either.”

Meanwhile, our six-year-old son had pricked up his revolting ears. A hole in the ground? Now that really was of interest to a boy. “I need a poo,” he declared gleefully.

“No you don’t,” I replied.

“No you don’t,” my husband replied.

“I’m bursting for a poo,” he countered.

Grrrrrr.

Well, even if you don’t believe them, it never pays to ignore children’s purported lavatorial urges, and so back we went to the dreaded hole in the ground. Mission accomplished, to his delight (not least because he had proved me wrong about his needs), we faced the next challenge: flushing the pesky thing. Yes, there was a flush – but where exactly did the water go? Were we in for an unexpected shower? We pressed the flush – and ran, fast. No need to worry about hand-washing, as there was no wash-basin. Thank goodness for my Wilko antibacterial hand-wipes.

Sadly, this was not a one-off experience. The following day at the beach offered civilisation in the form of a loo-pan and a hand-basin – but the water supply didn’t seem to stretch to either of them (and my thigh-muscles don’t stretch to prolonged crouching). I soon worked out that the easiest option was not to drink all day, in the hope that severe dehydration would reduce the need to encounter les WCs francaises. All I can think is that French women do not have periods.

Why, when the French can do so many things so well (peaches, tomatoes, sunny weather), do they fail so spectacularly to provide usable toilets? I strongly suspect there is some secret parallel toiletary universe which only the French know about, where they sit on their de-luxe loos and giggle at the thought of the English tourists weeing on their Crocs.

What I do know for a fact is that I will never, ever complain about an English toilet again. Mr. Portaloo, I salute you.